Thursday, September 9, 2010

Where are we, 2 years later?

WOW! I can't believe that it has been 2 years since I lost the man of my dreams. It has been a true roller coaster ride. So many good times and so many bad times. I have realized that the first year was survival. I thought the first year was going to be the hardest. Man was I wrong. The second year was reality. Reality is a lot harder to except than survival. So many emotions and hardships that have to be overcome. The reality of doing things on your own. Or even the simple tasks at home that need to be done. I have had an amazing support system along the way. My parents are incredible. I couldn't do what I do, as a mom and keep up, without them. Yet, getting the all of the kids homework done, dinner on the table, kids sports practices, then bathed and in bed, all to realize you are on your own. Better yet... disciplining 5 kids, that is hard. Before I got to be the easy one. Now, I have to be the hard one. I have to be the one to say NO! Ugh! That is hard for a momma that wants to give her kids all that they want and think they need. But, with the Lords help, I have made it so far. I have watched my kids overcome and survive an incredible dent in their life. They are full of energy and laughter, just like any other kid their age. They push my buttons and sometimes get away with it. Others not so much. I have had to figure out when they are using their hardship for their advantage and when they are truly hurting. Sometimes it is tricky. :) However, I am calling their bluff just as much as they are calling mine. haha
Connor is 11 and in 5th grade. This is the first year that he has started school with a smile on his face for the first time in 2 years. He is the Elementary School Treasurer for Stuco. He is one of the most thoughtful kids I have ever seen. He is always making sure that everyone in the family is taken care of. I have to constantly put him in his place, he is not the dad. He is the oldest brother. I do my best to make sure that he still gets to be a kid. He is in the middle of playing soccer. He chose to have the number 33 for his number. The age of Scott when he died. We talk about him as much as the kids are willing.
Caiden is 9 and in 4th grade. He is the Class Rep for stuco. He is a true leader. He loves to hunt and fish. The boy is so much like Scott it is scary. Anything he touches it turns to gold. He has a gift. I pray that he will use his talent in sports for the Lord. He is very sensitive to the Lord. I love it. He also, is playing soccer. He chose to have 4 as his number. The number 4 is Scott's favorite number. Caiden does his best to keep Scott's memory alive.
Grace is a girly girl. Yet, she can fight with the best of boys. She is 6 and in first grade. She is in gymnastics and playing soccer as well. That girl keeps my on my toes. I pray for her because she is just like her momma. Please pray for her too. hahha She knows what she wants and she goes for it.
Coltin, O my where do I start? He is Scott Jett on steroids. That boy is so full of personality and energy it kills me. He keeps me spinning, and I still can't keep up. Everyone laughs at him. He is extremely loud and very vocal. He is now 3 and in preschool. That poor teacher has her hands full. hahaha
Christian is now 1 1/2. The same age as Coltin was when Scott died. He is starting to really show his personality. He is very strong willed and has a temper. He will fight for whatever he wants. He is gaining his independence. He likes to do it for himself. I can't believe he is a toddler now and the baby days are over. I am excited to see his personality come together as he starts to talk.
Me....????? I am not sure where to start. I have come to a place that I am okay with Scott being gone. I don't like it. However, I am excepting the fact, he is where I long to be one day.... Heaven. I miss him like crazy. I miss the fun crazy times and long talks that we would have. But, I would much rather, be where he is right now. I am glad the survival and reality stages are over. I am hoping and praying that the third year, is one of finding my craziness and happiness again. I look forward to being a little wild and adventurous again. (Within the Christian standards of course ahhaha) I have decided that it is time for me. For the last 2 years it has been about my kids. I have for the most part, set them as priority. My needs coming last. Now it is time for Cori. I want to do what feels good for me. Things I like to do. I don't know what that looks like. Maybe date :) That sounds like fun. Yes, I have been on a couple of dates. Don't think about asking :) Cuz this girl isn't going to talk. hahahha I know the Lord told me, the man of my dreams at 32, is going to look much different, than the man of my dreams at 19. And that, I am okay with. I am praying and believing that God is going to lead, guide and direct me in all I do.
Thank you so much for all of your prayers. They are working. I feel the strength of the Lord in my life. He is and has been speaking to me. I long to please and live for Him. He is my ultimate priority in life. I want to see Him glorified. He is an amazing God, that loves me and you like crazy. I may not understand Why? or How come? But, I do find comfort in knowing He is in control of my life. No matter what happens He is going to take care of me. All I have to do is trust Him and His ways. Through everything I have been through the last 2 years, I know I am a very blessed girl!!!!


  1. Sister Cori,
    I Can Truly Say That I Look Up To You. You're So Strong. I Hope To Grow Up And Be At Least Half Of What You Are. Its Ironic I Was Going Through My Honor Star Crowning Pictures. I Found The One Of Me And You In The BackGround, You Making Me Smile With My Teeth Because I Refused. I Love You And Your Family. You're Always In Our Prayers. Love, Kendra Hatfield.

  2. That was amazing! I'm so proud of you and the kids. Keep dating and keep smiling.

  3. What an amazing story...keep praying and keeping those kids on track.

  4. wow girl! you're so amazing. i know you would say it's not you, it's the Christ in you. but still... :)

    jean corpening and i were talking about you and scott last night. we were just reminiscing about how awesome you both are/were. thank you for pouring into my life as well as those around me. i'm still helping to live the legacy!

    bless you!

  5. Love you and your precious family! Praying for you, today especially. ♥

  6. Cori, you are a living testimony of God's amazing grace in real time! Keep the focus that you have written here and you will continue to be amazed by His grace! You are doing well. Thanks for sahring your story so candidly. God bless!

    Palmer Crandell

  7. I am always so encouraged by you! You are an amazing, beautiful, strong woman and I pray for you often. Keep pressing on!


  8. WOW!You are a strong person and i admire that. My niece lost here husband three weeks ago and she has three small children to raise of her own. Be strong...

  9. Cori, It's so nice to hear "the bounce in your step". We love you so very much and continue to pray for you. We know God has an amazing plan for all of you! Love, Synthia and family

  10. Cori, you are amazing! We have been praying for you and the kids daily. You are such a good mom and I am excited to see what God has in store for you in the years to come. I miss you...we need to get together. Love Yah!